Mar. 23rd, 2012

parasitegirl: (Default)

A few weeks ago I heard from D. It was a very short email. He’d heard about our larger recent aftershocks and wanted to check if I was ok. I said that I was, and thanked him for his concern, and that was that.

I couldn’t not reply. If someone is worried about your physical safety I think it’s best to reassure them, no matter how you feel about them…but there was nothing more. I didn’t ask him how he was or say anything that might return us to the world of communication.

It’s the first time I’ve been in a “serious” relationship where I haven’t made any attempts at remaining in communication or trying to navigate the murky waters of “what sort of relationship/friendship do we have now?”

The emails I got right after it had all broken down…after the day of light texts…made me not want to engage in any discussion or new form of relationship.

It’s not that the issues that tripped us up were one-sided…they weren’t. There’s a whole lot of troubling takeaways for me to think about: I can’t hide my passive streak behind my extrovert image. Not asking probing questions isn’t always an asset, sometimes it’s just lazy or it comes from a fear of things I don’t want to address….and more. I gots some growing up to do.

I haven’t used my self-awareness to negotiate a new way of us relating…because I have never been able to imagine what could be gained from that. I would be unable to simply stop with what I’ve learned about myself…I’d also want to unload what I thought about his behaviors. I know what I make of his roll in all of our fail…but I have no interest in influencing what he takes away from it. If he ever asks for my opinions on what happened, that will be something I have to deal with…but this silence feels right.

Posted via LiveJournal app for iPhone.


Mar. 23rd, 2012 11:30 am
parasitegirl: (Default)

Inspiration I can live with: Jillian Michaels, in a recent podcast, said that when faced with the choice of getting a workout in or getting more sleep, she’ll pick sleep. I’m very pro-sleep. I’ve been enjoying the regular sleep hours that not teaching in Tokyo brought me. On Tuesdays I go to Matsudo, take Joe’s Tribal Fusion class, and am asleep by 10/10:30. I know it goes without saying, but that is worlds better than getting home at 11:30 on Tuesday night and waking up at 6/6:30.

Didja know, didja know? Jillian is 37. I’m pretty sure that no amount of working out will make me look like that by the time I reach 37, because it’s less than a month away, but I can take pride in being in way better shape than I was…ever.

Enough with my Jillian obsession…. for now.

Recording my calories continues to go well. It has increased the amount of veggies I eat per day and confirmed that I have a massive sweet-tooth. I’ll also be bringing natto back into my morning foods because I may need more iron. I have some easy to see stress-eating habits…as much as I loved working with Mona I should find a way to avoid her mother’s heaping plates of Oreos, chips, chocolate-covered digestive biscuits and more. That is really the last thing that should be put next to me pre-show.

Talking calories and heart rate monitors and has brought me in contact with a different D from my past…one I enjoy hearing from. Drew! I should have realized that if “MyFitnessPal” tickled my inner geek (and my questioning geek) that I would not be alone in my geekhunt. HI, DREW! RUN, DREW… RUUUUUN! RUN LIKE JILLIAN MICHAELS IS AFTER YOU!

Posted via LiveJournal app for iPhone.


parasitegirl: (Default)

October 2012

 1 23456
78 910111213
141516 17 181920
28 293031   

Most Popular Tags

Style Credit

Expand Cut Tags

No cut tags
Page generated Sep. 19th, 2017 08:44 pm
Powered by Dreamwidth Studios